Aggression as a means to overcome depression

Life appears to be so meaningless to these children, who are either too scared of the competitive world or bogged down by heavy stimuli. They need an inspiration....
And Spirituality is that inspiration that can keep the spirit up!
Aggression is the antidote to depression.
Depression sets in if there is a lack of zeal to fight.
Depression is lack of energy, and anger and aggression are a bolt of energy.
When Arjuna was depressed, Krishna inspired him to fight and thus reinstated life back in Arjuna. If you are depressed, don't take Prozac - just fight - for any cause!
If aggression crosses a certain limit it leads you back into depression. That's what happened with King Ashoka, who won the Kalinga war but became depressed. He had to take refuge in Buddha.
WISE ARE THOSE WHO DO NOT FALL EITHER INTO AGGRESSION OR DEPRESSION.

Love and Marriage

Nowadays, Love is mostly treated in satisfying each other’s body needs and financial solutions. This is the reason for many love and marriage break-ups. We have also seen some people who love their pets more than their life partners. It shows the insufficient recognition in human touch.

Many great ones had said that it is a gift to attain Human birth. This human body is a magnificent power base yet to be realized by most people. Love is another marvelous gift depending on what you love for or expecting from others. Love is an immeasurable feeling as such it is segregated accordingly by the sense of belonging or relations.

The feelings in every male and female are almost the same. In each body, we have a weak left side and a strong right side. Our feelings also reveal the firmness and weakness on both male and female bodies.

Marriage brings not only two persons together but also their feelings. If your feelings goes well with your partner than the marriage is fruitful, if not it becomes a debating ground where each ones respect is tarnished by accusations. Love is the structure for many relations. True love is sacrifice, care, respect, faith and understanding. Tolerance and clear thinking are part of love’s assets. It is good to understand oneself first before comparing with others. Loving someone just for the sake of loving is safer than loving someone for reasons since it can change anytime.

Marriage is a sacred ritual to assist nature in perpetuating human race. It disciplines the flirting mind by the thought of their life partner. It builds responsibility, faith and unity for a good family and society. Simultaneously, in such devoted relationship, the equal satisfaction in sexual love shared, arouses the Kundalini power steadily.

The purpose of practicing Yoga is also for stimulating the Kundalini power located at the tip of the backbone (tail). An extra advantage of Yoga is for keeping the body system in a good condition. Experienced Yogis had concluded that awakening the Kundalini power is the key of self-realisation. Proper guidance is very important too.

Like the rough sea (male) produces high current (female) that is used to generate electricity.

Marriage is one of the nature’s secrets visibly displayed. A person can try keeping his mind and heart away from Karma while still enjoying life’s comfort. Identifying our body requirements and mind control over desires with necessary practices in sense purification is Karma Yoga.

Seeing your partner differently is normal but seeing your partner in you is divine. People with such capabilities never find faults with their life partners. This is a type of mind control and meditation in the course of self-realisation.

Make your marriage life a more meaningful one.

DOUBT and CLOSENESS

A doubt is a gray area. Gray is something which is neither white nor black. Now, how to solve the doubt? An event, knowledge, convention cannot help. Then what can help? Accepting it either as black or as white. Put it either as black and accept it or as white and accept it -- whether or not it is black or white. And see the gray as a shade of black or white. Either way you accept it. Honest or dishonest -- accept it. Then the mind is quiet. You are not in the gray area.

See, the eyes are dark, eyebrows are dark, the thymus -- the most powerful organ of the body -- is black. Hemoglobin -- the main force of the body -- is black. You cannot survive without black. It is part of you.

DOUBT and CLOSENESS

Doubt cannot come where there is a sense of closeness. Doubt needs a distance to appear. You never doubt something that is dear to you, close to you.

The moment you doubt, it is no longer dear to you; a distance has come.

You may doubt yourself, but you do not doubt that which is yours.

Self-doubt is a lack of closeness to oneself, a sense of belongingness, closeness, intimacy are all the antidotes for doubt.

Letting Go of Control

Many have a problem of letting go of control. This results in anxiety, restlessness and it sours relationships.

Wake up and see, are you really in control? What are you in control of? Perhaps a tiny part of your waking state! Isn’t that so?

• You are not in control when you are sleeping or dreaming.
• You are not in control of thoughts and emotions coming to you. You may choose to express it or not, but they come to you without your prior permission!
• You realize that most of the functions of your body are not in your control, and the same for your life and the whole universe.

Similarly, do you think you are in control of all the events in your life or in the world? That is a joke!

When you look at things from this angle you need not be afraid of losing control, because you have none!

Whether you realise it or not, when you let go of your sense of control that is when you truly relax. Your identification of being somebody does not let you relax totally and it keeps your domain limited.

Words of Swami Vivekananda

“Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life - think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success, that is way great spiritual giants are produced.”
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“We are responsible for what we are, and whatever we wish ourselves to be, we have the power to make ourselves. If what we are now has been the result of our own past actions, it certainly follows that whatever we wish to be in future can be produced by our present actions; so we have to know how to act.”

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"All differences in this world are of degree, and not of kind, because oneness is the secret of everything."

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"All the powers in the universe are already ours. It is we who have put our hands before our eyes and cry that it is dark. "

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"As different streams having different sources all mingle their waters in the sea, so different tendencies, various though they appear, crooked or straight, all lead to God. "

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"Condemn none: if you can stretch out a helping hand, do so. If you cannot, fold your hands, bless your brothers, and let them go their own way. "

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"External nature is only internal nature writ large."

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"GOD is to be worshipped as the one beloved, dearer than everything in this and next life.
If faith in ourselves had been more extensively taught and practiced, I am sure a very large portion of the evils and miseries that we have would have vanished."

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If money help a man to do good to others, it is of some value; but if not, it is simply a mass of evil, and the sooner it is got rid of, the better. "

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"In one word, this ideal is that you are divine. "

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"Never think there is anything impossible for the soul. It is the greatest heresy to think so. If there is sin, this is the only sin; to say that you are weak, or others are weak."

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"Our duty is to encourage every one in his struggle to live up to his own highest idea, and strive at the same time to make the ideal as near as possible to the Truth."

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"Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life - think of it, dream of it, live on idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success."

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"That man has reached immortality who is disturbed by nothing material."

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"The moment I have realized God sitting in the temple of every human body, the moment I stand in reverence before every human being and see God in him - that moment I am free from bondage, everything that binds vanishes, and I am free."

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"The more we come out and do good to others, the more our hearts will be purified, and God will be in them."

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"The Vedanta recognizes no sin it only recognizes error. And the greatest error, says the Vedanta is to say that you are weak, that you are a sinner, a miserable creature, and that you have no power and you cannot do this and that. "

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"The will is not free - it is a phenomenon bound by cause and effect - but there is something behind the will which is free. "

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"The world is the great gymnasium where we come to make ourselves strong. "

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"Truth can be stated in a thousand different ways, yet each one can be true. "

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"We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far. "

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"When an idea exclusively occupies the mind, it is transformed into an actual physical or mental state."

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"Where can we go to find God if we cannot see Him in our own hearts and in every living being.
You cannot believe in God until you believe in yourself. "

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"You have to grow from the inside out. None can teach you, none can make you spiritual. There is no other teacher but your own soul."

11 ways to be a happy employee

Can you recollect a day where you woke up at 5:00 am, got ready quickly and waited to do something exciting? Was it your college annual day function? Or a competitive exam? Or maybe a first date? Maybe it was your wedding day. Is it Monday morning to work? If the answer is the last, surely you are a happy employee.

Though the above occasions may not have a lot in common, excitement and motivation can be attributed to almost all of them. However, at the workplace, it is almost impossible to find both or any one of these attributes daily. But, being happy or unhappy is always in our hands. That's the choice we make and we are the creators of the outcome by our actions. Let's look at what might make an employee unhappy.

. Unfair rewards and recognition
. Office politics
. Un-cooperative team
. Unreasonable boss
. Insufficient compensation
. Constant threat to job security
. Lack of responsibility in the current job
. No clear career path
. Seating location
. Lack of basic facilities at workplace

And the list goes on and on. Some of these things may not really propel an employee to quit, but it might lead to negative energy which leads to low productivity. When an employee is under-productive he or she will be the first target when companies look for opportunities to give pink slips.

As mentioned earlier, being happy is always in your hands. A happy employee is more productive and gives more than an unhappy employee. So let's look at some ways to up the happiness factor.

1. Plan your week on Sunday night

Look at your work calendar and plan your week on Sunday night or Monday morning. This would include important meetings, deliverables, a brief summary of things that are pending from last week and any tasks to be achieved during the week. Though this might look like a time management tip, at the end of the week, on Friday night when you re-visit what you have achieved over the last five days, the satisfaction is immense.

2. Undertake activities that you are passionate about even though it might not be in your job profile

Start an initiative that you would love to do irrespective of whether it is required for you to do or not.

. Send a daily newsletter to your team on the topics that most of them will be interested.
. Do a presentation on the topic that you are passionate about.
. Organise a small sports event for your team.
. Call everyone in your team for a team coffee, breakfast or lunch break
. Appreciate colleagues in your team or in a cross-functional team who did a great job
. Write a poem on your team's achievements
. Arrange a potluck lunch

3. Do not indulge in the blame game

If something goes wrong do not blame others blindly. If you commit a mistake, do not hesitate to accept it. As Gauthama Buddha said, there are three things we can't hide for long: the sun, earth and the truth. Accepting your mistake gracefully will only make you look like a true professional and also give you the satisfaction of not cheating.

4. Communicate more often in person

Utilise all the opportunities where you can speak to an individual in person rather than e-mail or phone. But be aware of the other person's time and availability. Listening to a positive answer from a person will give you more happiness than if it is done over the phone or via e-mail.

5. Know what is happening at your workplace

Will this make a person happy? Truly, yes! Imagine a cricket team that doesn't know how many runs to score to win a match? More than losing the game, the player will never be interested or motivated to play well.

Attend all meetings that are addressed by the CEO to your immediate manager to know what is going to happen around you. It could be the company's growth plan or your department's next big project. Jack Welch mentions in his book Winning "every employee, not just the senior people, should know how a company is doing."

You will also get an extra edge if you are in a position to answer queries raised by your peers or juniors. This is not just for the good reasons, but bad reasons as well. You do not want to be the last employee to know if your company is laying off employees (in the worst case, if you are the one who is on that list).

6. Participate in organisation-level activities

This could be as simple as spending one weekend for a corporate social responsibility activity or attending a recruitment drive to help your HR team or arranging a technical/sports event at the organisational level. Most of these events will be successful as people do come on their own to contribute.

7. Have a hobby that keeps you busy and happy

Many people say their hobby is watching TV or listening to music or reading the newspaper. These aren't hobbies, they are just ways of passing the time. Some hobbies are evergreen and will keep you evergreen as well: dancing, painting, writing short stories, poems, blogs and sharing your experiences.

8. Take up a spor

While choosing a sport make sure that there is physical activity. There is the danger of becoming addicted to sports where there is less physical activity (like computer games, chess, cards etc). Physical activity keeps a person healthy and happy. If you pick up one sport well, you can represent your organisation in corporate sports event too.

9. Keep yourself away from office politics

Politics, as a practice, whatever its profession, has always been the systematic organization of hatreds. -- Henry Brooks Adams
Politics is everywhere and the office is no exception. Playing politics might be beneficial but only for the short term. So the best thing to do is play fair.

10. Wish and smile

More often than not, there are fair chances that the other person will smile back. This could be your security guard at the gate, your receptionist, your office boy, your CEO or your manager -- never forget to wish them and smile.

11. Volunteer for some activity
"The value of a man resides in what he gives and not in what he is capable of receiving." - Albert Einstein

Do at least one activity without expecting anything in return. There is no set frequency for this. This could be once in a day or once in a week or thrice in a week. It could be as simple as making tea at the office for your colleague, helping a colleague who is working in another department by using your skills, dropping your colleague at his door step in your car, going to your manager or colleague to ask if there is any help you can extend, contributing to technical or knowledge management communities in your organisation etc.

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Decision And Confusion

Decision comes only when there is confusion. When there is no confusion then there is no decision. For example, if there is a piece of wood and a biscuit on your desk, you don't decide which one to eat, isn't that right? Decision is always about choice and choice is always confusing. So, all decision-makers are confused! (Laughter)

Action is spontaneous when there is no actor. In you, there is an actor and there is a witness. An actor is either confused or decisive, but the witness realizes that the action is spontaneous and smiles.

The more decisions you make, the more confused you are, and as a result you swing between pain and pleasure. The more the witness grows in you, the more playful and untouched you are. Trust, faith, love and joy all manifest in and around you.

Are you confused, decided or happy now?